Change is hard.
It's so hard that most people never really do change.
According to Business Insider, 80% of New Year's resolutions are finished by February.
If you want to continue to grow as a person you have to embrace change.
Please don't just start changing things for the sake of change though. Change must be purposeful and relevant, otherwise it is never going to matter to you. And as has already been proven, if it doesn't matter to you then it won't stick.
Here are a couple tips for making meaningful changes in your life:
Telling yourself that you will never eat ice cream again is an example of mental crazy talk. It is almost a certainty that you will fail at this change because the expectation is completely unrealistic. People say these things all the time after a long night drinking, or eating too much at Thanksgiving every year. Make sure your change is meaningful and can be measured for success.
Make sure your goal is well thought out. Let's talk about ice cream again. Setting a goal of never eating it again is unrealistic. Instead, set your goal so you reward yourself for achievement. If your goal is to lose weight then reward yourself with something meaningful like ice cream at certain milestones. A good set up is to reward at every 5-10% of your goal. Depending on the length and complexity of your change, maybe 3% is a better barometer. However it works out, keep motivating yourself to acheive by rewarding your milestones.
Whether you are doing it for you or someone else, you have to have a reason to make the change. Find your motivation and stick to it. Some people quit smoking because of their kids. Some want to lose weight for a wedding or special event. Whatever your motivation is, place a picture of it in your most likely weak point to remind you of why it matters. Weigh loss? Place that picture on the fridge. Smoking? Put the picture near the ash tray or on your designated smoking area. You can do this and you will!